It is not a curse to say that so many
of us looking forward to having a date today, Valentine’s Day, may not have any,
while a few who have been living their normal lives, ‘enjoying life to the
fullest’ without bothering about having any date on Valentine’s Day, would end
up having three or more dates.
My reason is that Lovers’ Day is not a day for
meeting a new date but a day to consolidate and rekindle existing
relationships; this is not to say that people are not going to fall in love
today, Valentine’s Day.
There is a saying, “Enjoy the little
things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.” by
Robert Brault. The most precious things in life are mostly free: sleep, breath,
warmth, water, family, and friendship, but most often we overlook these things,
chasing shadows. Let’s focus more on family and friendship.
Friendship and Family
Friendship becomes more serious when
we start appreciating and reciprocating what the other person is offering
freely as a result of trust and willingness to give. Mutual understanding
emanates from initiating rapport; it is a gradual process aside from what some
people believe to be ‘love at first sight.’ It is natural not to be open to
people we perceive as total strangers, but as we tend to familiarize ourselves with them,
we begin to open up, and friendship sets in. How about when relationships grow cold
as a result of overfamiliarity? That is where true love sets in.
To truly love someone requires a high level of creativity, which demands that one has to become a changed person. You
have to become remarkably different in the sense that you could do something that
ordinarily you cannot do; our emotions react to actions emanating from what we
are thinking from our past experiences. These neurological changes tend to
affect our outlooks and dressing patterns towards rewarding the person we are
thinking about with or without knowing it. These actions become obvious when we put on
our best cologne; the men want to put on their best haircut, while the women
put on the best makeup. Our physical disposition makes us appealing to the
persons we want to impress, but the question is, who do we occupy our memory
with when we think and remember, because we end up either attracting the right
persons or ending up with the wrong persons.
EXERCISE
Let us engage our minds with some
little exercise: Pick up a plain sheet and pen and make a list of:
- Your entire sibling and 10
of your family members you can think of and remember.
- Make a list of your bestie
and 10 other friends that you can think of and remember.
- Make a list of your mentor
and 10 other persons you look up to that also inspire you.
- Make a list of someone you
are most indebted to and 10 other persons that have invested tremendously in
your upbringing and career.
Look at the list of all the names you
have listed out and start to think about each one of them base on the
relationships and experiences you have had with them and discover how your
relationship with each and every one of these persons would blossom and
rekindle.
HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!!!
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